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Top 10 Negative Effects of Forced Marriages
A happy marriage is one where two individuals like the presence of each other and have a strong desire to share their moments together. Naturally, in such a situation, both the partners must have much love for each other. In the West, the normal practice is to have courtship before marriage, and when the both the partners feel they are “ready” for marriage they get into it. In the East, the situation is different. Courtship before marriage is not well appreciated, and the parents usually decide upon the match. Although now they do allow the partner to have a say in matters, there are many cases whereby a person is forced into a marriage.
Forced marriage are never a success. In many well-to-do families, the patriarchal pressure is there that a son or daughter must marry the person the father chooses, whether the concerned person likes it or not. Among the Rajputs of Rajasthan and in many other upper caste cases in India this is very often the case. No doubt, the modern trend now is for partners to have a say, but yet in many cases this is not so.
Forced marriage rarely turn out to b be happy and successful. Why so? Let us observe this further.
Why forced marriages are not happy marriages?
- Partners right from the beginning hold resentment towards each other.
- The marriage is not to one’s liking.
- The choice of a partner is decided upon by another person.
- Possibility of not having common taste is very high.
- Incompatibility may be there.
- Sexually they may not be attracted towards each other.
- The criteria for marriage may be other than love.
- Disharmony can prevail after the marriage.
- The couple can remain apart even after marriage physically as well as psychologically, thus leading to the involvement of a “third” person.
- The marriage is more for the sake of “family reputation” rather than for love for each other, thus making the relationship very mechanical, rather than romantic.
It is often said that marriages are made in heaven, but yet partners involved would like to ensure that they are compatible to each other. But when it comes to forced marriages, this situation may not be possible.
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