Love Marriage vs Arranged Marriage – Advantages and Disadvantages

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Marriage as a social institution has remained evergreen for years. Young couples, whether in love or whether introduced through parents hope to tie the knot once they know they have found the right person.

Marriage can be based upon love or can be purely arranged; the choice is up to the person who wants to marry; whether to marry a known person or unknown person. Obviously, there are pros and cons in every situation. Which is better? Arranged or Love? Let us see…

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Advantages of Love Marriage

Love marriage is an union between two individuals who are attracted to each other after having met either at school, college, office, or through common friends or in the neighborhood. They mutually decide to tie the knot that would not permit legally any other person to get involved between them. In other words, they are legally together. Young people are going in for love marriages rather than an arranged one. Why so?

  • One has the complete freedom to select his or her life partner. No elder decides.
  • Selecting one’s own partner is a sign of maturity.
  • One is not marrying a total stranger. One knows the weak and positive points in order to adjust easily in matrimony.
  • Marriage is based upon love for each other and although the chances of it breaking down are there, yet the young couple hopes that their togetherness lasts forever.
  • Mutual respect for each other is there as they know each other before itself.
  • Marriage is not imposed. It is an independent choice.
Disadvantages of Love Marriage
  • Familiarity breeds contempt.
  • Lack of support from family and relatives.
  • At times, it can be financially difficult as the partners have to fend for themselves. There is no elder to bail them out.
  • Risk of the marriage breaking off is there as sometimes love wears out or perhaps the couples are “tired” of each other.
  • The question is who loves more than the other. Sometimes, one can experience deception also and the marriage can also be merely for convenience.
  • One of the partner may get bored with the other person and may seek the company of another person to fill in the vacuum in the relationship, This could be a devastating experience and could lead to depression as one is “let down” by somebody one has truly loved. At times, you may not have your family support in such a situation and may have to depend upon other support systems.
  • Financial problems may crop up and due to lack of family support, the relationship between the couples may get strained and result in hate for each other.

Now let us have look at what comprises arranged marriage and whether it is a better option to love marriage.

Advantages of Arranged Marriage
  • The selection of the partners is done by the elders and thus the marriage is more stable.
  • Family support is there due to which the couple could seek family help in case of crisis.
  • Partners are matured individuals who are getting into matrimony after feeling that the choice is right.
  • The groom is financially stable and the bride also brings in income for the family in the form of other assets. The couple feels secure financially.
  • There is excitement after marriage as the couple gets to know each other after the ceremony is over. There is fun in discovering each other.
  • Mutual respect for each other as the marriage is decided upon by elders who bless the newly-wed couple.
  • One can marry at a time when one feels that one is now ready to settle down in matrimony. It could be either after one has completed one’s studies or one has secured a proper job.
  • There is no question of “familiarity breeding contempt”.
Disadvantages of Arranged Marriage
  • One is marrying a totally unknown person.
  • The bride may find it difficult to adjust to the life-style of the in-laws.
  • Demands in the form of cash and other assets may be made which could strain the relationship between the couple.
  • Although most couples adjust, yet, it is possible that one may not like the other partner at all.
  • Problem of impotency and other hidden ailments could arise, which may not be disclosed at the time of marriage.
  • The marriage could be merely a contractual arrangement, like well-to-do business families do. There may not be any love involved and at times the male partner may have liaison with other women.
  • The bride may miss the comfort of her home.

Whatever said done both arranged and love marriages seem to be appealing but the best deal is semi arranged as one gets to know the partner and also gets the approval of the family.

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11 Comments

  1. Love merrage is most beautiful and happy love means belive,trust,caring it is true day by day love is not ending it is in forever in over heart

    • Vishal Mahuli on

      What you are talking about happens only in handful of cases. However the vast majority are not able to keep up that standard.

  2. Now a days arrange marriage is more successful then the love marriage because today’s lover is getting Bor from our partner… So if they are unknown then they will get enjoy to each other , this type of enjoy is missing in love marriage

  3. Rupal Ravindra Patil on

    I don’t know why I feel that love marriages are most happy marriages.
    I feel jealous that I have a lover for me to love care and respect me. But my family is not accepting him as he is from schedule caste.
    Can we compare love marriages and arranged marriages.
    Pls reply

    • U r not paying attention to your future. U are thinking only about your self. When your son or daughter will knew your reality they will do same thing. If they would do such in teen age their future will be in dark because u could not stop them at that time……. thik deeply then decide

  4. Vishal Mahuli on

    If i have to decide which one is better out of the 2, i.e. ruling out love cum arranged marriage which is the common norm of today. I would chose Arranged marriage.

    Arranged marriage if done properly (i.e. without hiding any thing or withholding vital information regarding finance – medical situation etc) will always lead to blissful life.

    But when you are in love and you partner is suffering for certain diseases, the blind love will oversee all that. Which comes to bit you in your later life, especially to the offspring’s.
    Marriage is much more than love. Its a basket which has all the ingredients such as love, sex, money, family, culture, customs, family traditions, likes and dislikes about food, what one wears, how does one like to live his / her life, quality of offspring and zillion other things. Majority of these are addressed well in advance in a arranged marriage before both the parties give consent for the marriage, the remaining ones are either addressed or adjusted by either of the spouse post marriage. In love marriage all these important points go out of the window as both of them expect unconditional love.
    To put it short love marriage guarantees you a blissful life for a short span of time however the future life is uncertain, and only handful of them are able to sustain that blissful life till there last breath. While in arranged marriage the platform is set for a beautiful and blissful married life, however the onus is on you and your partner if you are interested in making one.

  5. Love marriage is far more better than arranged marriage in arranged marriages the girl whom we Marry she’s downright stranger and we don’t about her past life whether she’s virigin or not ? But in love marriage’s even though if we knew that she was not virigin we tend to Marry the girl despite having known the fact ..
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